It's OK not to feel OK... Dealing with the anxiety of letting the Law of Attraction down!
I’d like to begin by saying - I’m all about the Law of Attraction and the Power of Positivity… All for it 😃
I’m currently elbow deep in The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I’ve read The Secret and The Power. I have The Magic in my book collection and I dip in and out of them all from time to time - shout out to Rhonda Byrne, she’s some woman for one woman! 💪
I practice the teachings from the book religiously...
I’ve made the lists of things I want in life - being very specific so that I have the best chance of manifesting them successfully
I have my vision board that I update regularly
I’ve printed out the Secret Check from the Universe and filled it out for what I believe to be a practical amount… nothing too greedy to start out. I do my very best to imagine this sum of money in my bank account and you know what? I genuinely believe that I’ll see it there very shortly.
My book collection is all about self help and self improvement and I try very very hard to live by the mantras outlined in these books. Some days I make great strides with it all, I feel like Beyonce, I can take on the World. Do you know what?
I. LOVE. THOSE. DAYS!
Other days… eh….not so much…..I can’t bring myself to even look in the direction of the books. The mere sight of them gives me a little pang of anxiety because I’m just not in the right head space for them.
The reality of the situation is that, for some people, it’s difficult to keep the positivity levels up when our circumstances are ‘normal’ nevermind when we’re trying to navigate our way through Jumanji level 6 of a Worldwide pandemic as we’ve recently been doing.
Some of us have been unfortunate enough to have lost our jobs (myself included) be it temporary or permanently.
We’ve all been through the mill recently haven’t we? Living through some of the most bizarre events we’ll (hopefully) ever encounter. Heck, some of us are even coming out of it with a new star sign as per last week's news in the media (myself included - I’m now a Capricorn in case anyone’s interested!) 😅 It truly is a time of total Renaissance and evolution for many of us and with that comes, the fear of the unknown.
My additional free time from temporary unemployment allowed me the opportunity to delve deep into the things I had been putting off. I started the process of writing a book at the beginning of March and I likened the onset of the pandemic to a baby bird being plucked from its nest in the cold and dark of the night. Many of us have felt lost and in a period of limbo over the past number of months, just gripping onto the pandemic roller-coaster for dear life.
Because the Law of Attraction centers around attracting into your life whatever you give your energy, focus, and attention to—wanted or unwanted, I found myself being super mindful not to allow a negative thought to enter my mind for fear of inviting the things into my life that I dread the most so people would ask how I was doing and I'd automatically reply with 'Ah grand, shur could be worse', the nervous laugh and the obligatory shrug 🤷♀️.
I had lost my voice for 6 weeks (through stress), lost my job with no idea of when it might come back and taken the top off my toe when I stubbed it on the tarmac in my back garden but hey, I was still alive wasn't it? What did I have to complain about?
⚠️Mildly negative thought alert⚠️
Maintaining a constant positive mindset and bravado can be a little exhausting can’t it?
Honorable mention to the hamsters who occupy my head... they generally choose night time to take to their wheel.
They wait patiently until I’m just about to nod off to sleep before they’ll present me with a selection of my worst memories from the past 10 years.. Before you know it, it’s 3am and the hamsters have reluctantly gotten (perhaps fallen) off the wheel and lay, all fours up in the air, tuckered out.
Social media pressure can be immense too - I’m partial to Social Media as much as the next person but if you’re sitting there scrolling through the countless ‘Live, Laugh, Love’ or the ‘Power of Positivity’ quotes from people who look like they have it all and you’re feeling a bit sh*t about your own life, feelings of inadequacy can creep in.
Look...
Simply put
Some days, you’ll be ready to take on the World 💪🏻
My advice is to embrace these days and get as much done as you can, while you can!
Other days, it may be an effort to drag a hairbrush through your hair. Actual clothes other than pyjamas seem like a bit of a push and somehow, you’ve eaten an entire tub of Ben & Jerry’s and a ‘share size’ bag of crisps (chips) by yourself in one sitting.
The pressure of having to ‘keep the good side out’ and live an ‘Insta-worthy’ life can be a very unrealistic not to mention, unfair target to set ourselves.
I think one of the most important things we need to remember in times such as these is that, it’s absolutely OK not to feel OK.
It’s OK to have a little pity party for one - why not dedicate an hour to it?
For my female readers, you might want to slip on the PJs, whip off the bra and fire up the hair into a high pony. Forget the calories, eat what you fancy and have the FULL FAT Coke or have the glass of vino! It's OK.
If it’s a man reading this, you might be RSVPing to the pity party in some lounge-wear with some take out, indulging in a little chip'n'dip and a beer. This is also OK!
‘An hour isn’t enough after the day/week/month I’ve had’ I hear you say… Dedicate an evening to it so if that’s how long you feel you need to have a successful self-sorrow-shindig.
What you're doing here is acknowledging how you're feeling, listening to that inner voice and digging deep within.
I'm not saying you need to overindulge to make yourself feel better - exercise, good, nutritious food, limited booze, and plenty of water will serve your body best but if you need to lay low and lick your wounds for an evening... put that guilt aside and DO IT!
This perception of negative thoughts, that we’re not allowed to have them or we’re supposed to just ignore them for fear of manifesting something bad can feck right off. You’re allowed to feel a little sorry for yourself from time to time. It’s not selfish or self indulgent. Have a cry, cuddle up to your pooch or your cat,journal about your feelings, watch mindless, trashy TV or whatever you need to do when you’re feeling sorry for yourself. It’s OK.
The important thing is that you don't take up permanent residency or overstay your welcome at the pity party. The party can't go on forever so, wounds licked, it's time to get back on the good buzz bike and look after your health and well-being with the aforementioned good nutritious food, exercise, a break from the booze and exercise you enjoy!
We’re only human at the end of the day. This fear of manifesting bad things if we allow ourselves to succumb to reality every once in a while puts additional pressure on those who suffer from a bit of anxiety from time to time and that my friends, is not OK.
Embrace how you’re feeling, deal with it, park it and emerge from your pity party with a renewed sense of vigor, ready to take on whatever else the World has to throw at you! These changes we’re experiencing right now might be hugely challenging but they are making us stronger people.
This might be just what you need to hear today and if it is, enjoy your pity party and we look forward to seeing you when you’re ready to come out of your little comfort cocoon! 💪
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